Friday, June 26, 2009

I'd Like To Say It In A Haiku

Haiku Friday

Humbled, grateful for
your kindness, willingness to
support a person

unknown to you. You
are amazing, and I won't
ever forget it.

(So sorry this 'ku is devoid of any flourishes outside my desire to express thanks. I just wanted to say it. Thank you for supporting a friend and her family.)

Thursday, June 18, 2009

St. Peregrine

Did you know that St. Peregrine is the Patron Saint of cancer patients?

No?

Well now you do.

I should have found this out when my mother had cancer, but the craziness of the 24/7 breastfeeding newborn Lillian and a penchant for turning to St. Jude anyway made this need obsolete. So my mother wasn't exactly a 'hopeless case,' which happens to be St. Jude's specialty. She did, however, have Stage 3 colon cancer. It was serious enough to warrant going to the main intercession Saint.

I'm of a clearer head these days. But once again knowing someone with a serious case of cancer, I wanted to find out who exactly is the go-to Saint for this disease.

We Catholics have Saints for everything. It's amazing. You got some dental issues? Saint Apollonia might be able to appeal to the higher ups on your behalf.

Looking for help during labor? Sr. Gerard Majella, ladies!

Eye troubles? St. Lucy is your best bet, having quite possibly had her eyes taken out by Diocletian as part of her torture.


Gardeners facing a tough growing season can implore for the intercession of St. Fiacre.

Fearful of a shipwreck? St. Anthony of Padua is your guy.

Tired of procrastinating? Expeditus might listen.

Even pastry chefs, undertakers and cab drivers have their own saints. No malady or profession is left without a celestial partner to lean on.

*******

About 10 years ago my parents took me to Ireland as a college graduation present. I made it through college, hadn't succeeded in killing myself, and so that was worthy of celebration. Unfortunately, I was fairly deep in the throes of a nasty depression, and so I was a sullen, weepy traveling companion. (My poor parents, seriously). (Also, Saint Dympna...Patron Saint of Mental Illness! Good to know.)

While we were there, we made a little pilgrimage in our rental car to the shrine at Melleray, where the Virgin Mary had reportedly appeared to some boys in the 80s. It was me and my parents, and a friend of my uncle we were also traveling with. As I sat in the chair before this shrine, where a white statue of Mary was set into the dug out side of this hill, I felt very little. I was so consumed with despair that I was entirely stuck in myself.

I had some natural intrigue about the story of the boys. I admit to watching to see if the statue would change to Jesus and back again to Mary, as some people had reported seeing, or if it would grow almost psychedelic with bright wavy lines around it, before returning to its natural state.

And I did pick up some of the holy water from the blessed spring that ran through the shrine. I did look at all the lit candles that symbolized someone's fervent faith or requests.

But generally, it was just another stop in Ireland, albeit one with a bit more relevance to my scattered faith.

In the car on the way back to our rental house, my mom and Jim began talking about their rosaries. Jim took his out of his pocket and mom took hers out of her purse. And in something my Agent Scully-like nature still has trouble processing today, they both discovered that elements of their rosaries had changed color. On my mother's rosary, the Christ figure, like the rest of the metal on it, had always been silver. It was now a gold color. On Jim's rosary, a scattering of links had also turned to a gold color, in nothing that resembled a pattern.

I won't go on and on about it. It was something I saw (I was sandwiched between them in the car) that still can make me shiver when I think about it.

It was simply one of those times heaven comes down to smack you in your head and remind you of something bigger and more wonderful. Whether we feel it or not. It's there.

*******

Yesterday I saw a bird on our dogwood. It was bigger than any of our typical fare, and I could tell instantly by its size and coloring that it was a bird of prey. I assumed it was a hawk, and stood there for a moment watching it. We see them circling above sometimes, but never this close. And never perched. Then it flew off.

This morning as I opened the bookmark that has St. Peregrine's novena for cancer patients on it, it hit me. What does a peregrine falcon look like?

And do you know what? It looked exactly like the bird on the dogwood. That wasn't a hawk. I scoured Google images feeling this jumpy sort of jubilation. I looked up the info on how they were endangered but are making a comeback, and can be found all over the world. I lingered on one particular image showing its back, and one showing it in flight, the two views I got the best of.

And back to Agent Scully, or at least, back to the reality that I am most certainly not an ornithologist. It was yesterday. The coloring was certainly not brown. I saw those striped tailfeathers. Is my memory serving me correctly?

So maybe it's nothing. Or maybe it was something big and wonderful.

I have decided that I don't care. I'll take it as a sign. St. Peregrine Laziosi has nothing to do with the peregrine falcon. All they share is a name, but right now that is at least enough to make me feel like I'm being listened to.

If not answered, listened to.




Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Can You Help A Sister Out?

Dear everyone who reads this thing,

I know times are tight. We're all holding on to our hard-earned cash with clenched fists, hoping for a turnaround sooner rather than later.

But I'm going to ask you to unclench a bit, and I know, all of you are exceedingly generous anyway. I've seen it and experienced it among this amazing online community.

I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with liver cancer. She is a year younger than myself, with two small children. And by small, I mean a 2-year old and a baby.

I don't like to talk of prognoses, as we've all seen people who've beaten the odds.

But this is not good. As if any cancer is good. It's downright serious. Without treatment, it's 6 months. Hopefully, treatment will eradicate this monster and keep her with her family. Her team is trying to get her into a clinical trial, but we haven't heard yet if this is a possibility.

I belong to a local organization for moms, and we're holding a fundraiser for our friend and her family.

We all love candles, don't we? So we're selling candles. Small pots are $9.00, and larger ones are $15. There are some really great scents: orange cream, watermelon, chocolate-dipped strawberry, plumeria, eucalyptus spearmint, and something that smells so like the ocean, even Kramer would approve. And many more.

Please, just send me an email if you want to buy one or 20. We'll work out the details there.

Thanks for listening,

Kelly

Saturday, June 06, 2009

Pretty Purple Pills

Once upon a time I used to take this great medication. It happened to be during a time when I took lots of other medications. Weeeeeee!

Heh.

Anyway, the medication was called Trazadone, and I used it because I'd go entire days without sleep. We're talking four days at a time. The anxiety I felt at the time was so pervasive that I couldn't escape it. In fact, it was worse at night, when all was quiet and all distractions were gone.

And Trazadone did exactly what it was supposed to do. I could take half a pill and be deliriously tired and pass out within 20 minutes. It was fantastic. It was the first pill I took that its job with no additional side effects.

Once I tried to call Dave after I had just taken a pill, thinking we could have a lovely little long distance chat while I waited to get tired. That was a big mistake. Within minutes, I was slurring like I'd just downed 10 shots of Jaegermeister and followed it with a 40 oz. "I wuv yoooooo. When kin I shee you gin. Garble garble garble."

Man, that shit works.

All this reminiscing has made me think about all the things I'd take a pill for. And here's but a brief list.

1) To never shave or wax again. Ever. Can you imagine the time saved by Italian women all over the world if this pill were available? We'd be able to take more time making sauce ana da meatballs. But how to make a pill that would isolate that hair and not make my eyebrows fall out? I don't know, but there are some fucking smart people out there, and the sky's the limit folks, get going!

2) For a sudden burst of super strength. This would come in handy when I see people litter. Because I really want to smash people when they drop their shit all over the place. They just think, "I don't want this Double Whopper wrapper in my car anymore, so I'm going to just throw it out of the window, because the world's my trash can, and I'm a giant asshole." And that's when I'd follow them to their destination, pop a super strength pill, lift the offender up, spin his or her ass around a few times, and then stuff them in their own trash can, which is probably empty anyway.

3) To grow an impermeable plastic skin, sound-proof and sight-proof, for when the days of childrearing become to much to handle. I mean, pretty much, this is going to straight up be a bubble, except form fitting so I don't destroy furniture.

And pretty much this sucker will just shut me down.

I won't be able to see or hear my children, or feel them clawing at me asking for more frosted animal crackers.

Don't get me wrong. This would be a last resort, for when all my calm voiced parenting and reasonable offers fail, when the yelling and fighting doesn't cease, and when I feel myself wondering if it would have been better to have simply been born a squirrel. "I'll give you a choice kids, either you knock this shit out, or Mommy takes the bubble pill."

4) You can't have visited this website for any length of time and not know that I have a problem with headaches. Specifically, migraine headaches. I was at a website the other day that describes migraines as a brain disease. And quite frankly, it fucking feels like it. It feels like a red hot jackhammer blasting away at the inside of my skull. And I've had them since high school. I currently have a really great medication that gets rid of them almost 100% of the time, but sometimes they come back. And since my insurance only covers 6 pills a month, and one headache might require 3, you can see how I might run out. And that sucks.

On a scale of crosses to bear, I can live with this one. But if I didn't have to, I'd pop that pill in an instant. To never experience that blinding pain again, to never have the blind spots, the nausea, the pre- and post-headache hangovers. That would be amazing.

And honestly, I don't really like taking medication. Seriously. I know you're all like, right, you just spent minutes rhapsodizing over some anti-depressant that knocked you out cold and how fantastic that was, and then how you'd love to pop other pills, and we're supposed to believe you're more a natural-type gal? Really, though, it's true. I'd rather just go about my life without filling prescriptions until my arteries start filling with plaque or something awful like that.

Right now, beside my migraine meds, I also take Omepreazole for reflux. Which really pisses me off. Because producing too-much stomach acid is totally an old man disease.

So this is what I want to know, readers. If you had the inclination and could take a pill that would change something for you, what would it be?